Now playing: The role of “you”

As an actor, I like playing roles – the weirder, the better! When you play someone with a strong personality, with a distinctive accent or a certain gait, it’s easy to slip into the role and become the character the author created.

In life, we play a mix of roles without thinking much about it. Each one can have its own look, and each comes with expectations – some that you impose on yourself, and some that you think others expect of you.

You may be open with your spouse but guarded about who you are at work. Or maybe you play the role of “spouse” at home and are more open and unguarded at work. Your parents and siblings know you better than anyone. Or do they? Are you “you” around them? Or a version of “you” that they’ll understand and accept? And maybe with one friend you’re a goof, and with another you’re a listener and problem solver. Continue reading

Finding your balance

Organizational Zen is about being organized in a way that brings you peace. It’s not about trying to nail down every aspect of your life, to be neat as a pin, or to always be perfect and in control. And it’s not about trying to organize others – you’re concentrating on your own good work.

Organizational Zen is about deciding how you want to spend your time, then prioritizing and focusing on what you’re doing.

Here’s an exercise I learned in Lissa Rankin’s book Mind Over Medicine that gives you a visual of the essential things you need in your life to feel balanced.

  • Picture your life as a cairn of rocks where each stone supports the one above it.
  • What are the essential rocks that give you a feeling of peace and balance – bottom to top?
  • What’s missing from your stack?

I did some thinking about what the rocks are in my cairn and came up with a long list. Continue reading

What if your life were theater?

If your life was a play, is it something you’d go see?

  • What’s your story?
  • Is the plot line interesting with a number of surprise twists?
  • Is your life a drama? A comedy? Is it musical theater?
  • Are there interesting characters in your life story?
  • How’s the pace – are things moving right along?
  • Is there a beginning, a middle, and an anticipated end?
  • What will the audience walk away with at the end of your show?

If your life were a play, would you live it differently than you are now? Continue reading

How to be more productive

If you find yourself saying, “I wish I could get more done,” stop for a minute and think about exactly what it is you want to get done.

  • Do you want to finish projects you’ve already started?
  • Do you wish you were doing more interesting stuff?
  • Do you have big ideas and aren’t sure how to take the first step?
  • Or are you just feeling like you’re wasting time?

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Declutter Quickies

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by stuff at home or at work, it’s time to declutter. Decluttering is not neatening up, sorting, or organizing, it’s actually getting rid of stuff and that’s tough for many. The cool thing about decluttering is that if you do it right, you have a very clear idea of what you own. And when you put things again in their own place, you also know where to find them.

And remember: The goal is Organizational Zen which is the peace of knowing you’ve got a handle on your life. You don’t have to organize the entire world – just your world 🙂 Continue reading

3 tips to help you make a decision

If feels like we make dozens of decisions every day, but much of what we do is based more on habit than choice. What time we get up. What we have for breakfast. Where we go for a run. What work we do. What we do for fun. Even what we say and how we react to what life offers us is more habit than decision. Continue reading

What did you learn today?

Learning something new every day keeps you engaged with life. It gives you interesting things to think about – and to talk about!

Here are 10 tips to elevate the curiosity-quotient in your life. Continue reading

Complaining is not a strategy

If you find yourself complaining a lot, it’s time to stop. Complaining is a waste of your time and other people’s time. If you don’t like something, try to fix it.

If you don’t know how to fix it, that’s awesome. That’s your challenge! Study the stuff that bugs you to see if you’re complaining about things that really matter to you. Or is complaining just a bad habit?

A few things of note: If you’re complaining about a person and you’re doing it behind their back you’re not going to change anything. Continue reading

What’s your “Why”?

At the end of one of the first talks I gave on Organizational Zen, a participant said he understood that if he wanted to stop wasting time it would be great to have a larger goal in mind.

It’s just that he didn’t have any bigger work to do. He had raised his children and run a successful business, and as a retiree, felt like no one needed him anymore. He asked how he should spend the last years of his life.

Oh, my. No one can answer that question for you; it’s something that comes from inside and only you can bring it to life. Continue reading